Leaders Must Practice Servant-Leadership, Not Expect Others to Serve Them

The term “servant-leadership” was initially coined by Robert Greenleaf, an executive for 40 years with AT&T.  Greenleaf was originally inspired by Herman Hesse’s novel “Journey to the East,” which Greenleaf read in 1958.

As Greenleaf wrote: “In this story, we see a band of men on a mythical journey…The central figure of the story is Leo, who accompanies the party as the servant who does their menial chores, but who also sustains them with his spirit and his song.  He is a person of extraordinary presence.  All goes well until Leo disappears.  Then the group falls into disarray and the journey is abandoned.  They cannot make it without the servant Leo.  The narrator, one of the party, after some years of wandering, finds Leo and is taken into the Order that had sponsored the journey.  There he discovers that Leo, whom he had known first as a servant, was in fact the titular head of the Order, its guiding spirit, a great and noble leader.”

For many years, Greenleaf researched management, professional development and education.  As he read and wrote, Greenleaf developed a suspicion that the authoritarian leadership style prominent among major American companies was not successful.  In 1964, he took early retirement from AT&T to found the Greenleaf Center for Servant Leadership.

Greenleaf’s approach has been characterized by others as embodying 10 characteristics:

  • Listening
  • Empathy
  • Healing
  • Awareness
  • Persuasion
  • Conceptualization
  • Foresight
  • Stewardship
  • Commitment to the Growth of People
  • Building Community

Greenleaf’s idea was not that all people who possess each of these traits are automatically excellent leaders, but that leaders must consistently practice and demonstrate each of these traits in an ethical manner to create a lasting framework for a true leadership culture.

Servant-leadership means the leaders are always in service to the people they lead.  This concept is challenging to model because it runs counter to so many traditional views of leadership.  To practice true servant-leadership, we must get to know the people we lead as human beings and not merely as employees.  We should know their professional and personal goals, be cognizant of their family situations, be familiar with their backgrounds, and understand what motivates them.

To get to this level of familiarity with our people, we must do the one thing that is guaranteed to take us away from our phones, our computers and our desks – spend quality time with them over breakfast, lunch, coffee, dinner, after-work drinks or at a professional event.  We do not have to become friends with our colleagues or socialize with them; in fact, many leadership experts would label such behavior a mistake.

However, if we want our people to go the extra mile for us or for our office, we must show them that we are invested in their personal and professional growth, that we “get” them and that we will support them in pursuing their dreams.  The old statement is still valid in 2018 – and I have seen it play out at law firms, government agencies and corporations during my past 40 years in the legal profession: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

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Hoya Highlight: Luisa Santos (C’14)

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Luisa Santos (C’14) is the Founder of Lulu’s Ice Cream, and was the recipient of the 2018 GEA Entrepreneurial Excellence Award for Rising Star. Luisa’s liquid nitrogen ice cream business is based in Miami, FL.

What is the best career advice you have ever received?

I received a lot of great advice from my many mentors over time. The best piece of advice, and one that I apply every single day, came from Alyssa Lovegrove, Adjunct Professor of Entrepreneurship in the MSB. She said, “Problems are going to seem insurmountable if you try to tackle them all at once. Think about the absolute smallest step you could take to solve the problem in front of you, and break the problem apart into small steps to work toward a solution.” Anytime I have something huge to figure out, I think through what is the absolute smallest thing to do to start to figure out how to solve problem. In business, this usually means doing the least costly thing you can to test out how to solve the issue you’re facing.

What has been the most rewarding moment of your career?

Seeing my team achieve their own financial goals through the jobs they had at Lulu’s and through our financial literacy training program. We’ve set up a network of financial literacy advisors for our staff members to learn from, and the results have been incredible. One of our team members was able to pay off a pile of debt; another team member started saving for retirement. This program has helped to de-stigmatize issues around financial literacy and has given my team confidence and tools to plan for the future.

What is the hardest thing you have ever had to do professionally?

Having to close a shop in December 2016. This was really hard because it was the first time I had to objectively look at my business and make decisions based on numbers without emotion. People lost their jobs. It was really scary. And there were difficult consequences to navigate. At the end of the day, I realized if I didn’t make hard decisions early on, I could ruin everything else I’d worked so hard to build.

Who or what was your favorite professor or class at Georgetown?

Professor Michael Ryan who teaches Personal Finance in the Business School. His classes were incredibly impactful at Georgetown and beyond. He’s a genuinely caring human who values his students, and he teaches from a values standpoint on the subject of finance. This is hard to do, and it made his classes super interesting and relevant. I also loved the entrepreneurship classes I took. I started Lulu’s as a project for one of those classes!

What is your favorite Georgetown memory?

The first time I made ice cream! It felt like every single person on campus somehow contributed to allowing me to make my ice cream on campus.

How has Georgetown shaped you?

I don’t think I could have done what I’m doing without Georgetown. The competitions I participated in gave me my initial capital for starting Lulu’s; the unparalleled access to mentors in the startup world gave me a support system; and the classes I took gave me the ability to learn the basics of starting and managing a business. My debut ice cream making happened at Georgetown events…Georgetown laid the groundwork for where I am now.

Who is a source of inspiration and strength to you in your life and why?

My mentors are a source of inspiration for me, and so I want to be able to give what I got from my mentors back out into the world. I’m a mentor for everything! From the startup club at Florida International University to women’s college groups, I want to be a mentor and a source of advice to as many people as possible.

What is one part of your daily routine you could not live without?

Personally: journaling and working out. Professionally: I look at our cash flows Every. Single. Day.

Who is your favorite author?

Jerry Spinelli’s Stargirl was incredibly impactful to me.

What are your words to live by?

Every day, I ask myself “How can I do the most good today?”

View Luisa’s story and other alumni stories on the Hoya Highlights page of the ACS Website

To Communicate Well, Listen First by Dean Brenner (C’91)

When we think about communication in the workplace, all too often we focus on the delivery part: what we will say, what our slides will look like and how loudly we should speak. All that’s important, but what about the other side?

Before we speak, we need to listen. And when we do speak, we need to make sure that our audience is listening to us. As with nearly every aspect of persuasive communication, there are a few key ways to improve your own listening and encourage it in your audience.

First, why is listening so important as an initial step in communication? Because it helps you understand your audience and, thus, tailor your message to their needs and concerns. By listening well — in other words, through active listening — we discover the best way to deliver the message we need our audience to hear.

As you seek to cultivate active listening, keep in mind three important ways to engage with what you are hearing:

Fully Engage: Put away your cell phone and shut down your email. Truly focus on what is happening in this conversation. Ask questions, and listen closely to the answers. Be a thoughtful listener.

Take Notes: For your listening to really pay off, you need to be able to remember what you’ve heard. A written log of a conversation is an invaluable resource as you move forward to analyze what you’ve learned.

Repeat Key Information: When the conversation is over, review what you’ve heard, whether by going over your notes, discussing the call with colleagues or writing up a synopsis memo.

Asking questions — and being open to the answer, whether it is what you want to hear or not — is an important part of this process. Preparing a few questions in advance can be helpful; that way, you can really listen to the answers rather than thinking about what you should ask next. And recognizing what Tony Salvador at Intel calls “listening bias” can help make you more receptive to new ideas and fresh insights and better align you with your audience.

Besides allowing you to gather important insights into your audience, the act of active listening demonstrates your respect for your audience. In our overcrowded, high-volume world, it is easy to forget that communication isn’t a one-way street. It’s not just about broadcasting our own opinions: It’s about exchanging ideas and learning from one another. By listening well, you show your commitment to a respectful exchange. And your audience will be more likely to return that respect to you.

Which brings us to the other side of the equation: What can you do to cultivate active listening in your audience? It’s more than just crafting a gripping message, although that certainly helps. Once you’ve set the tone by demonstrating your own active listening, how else can you set up your audience to hear what you want to say? Often, it’s very simple: Change the environment.

Consider your goal, and pick a meeting place accordingly: Do you want people to think creatively? Consider moving to a new space or making sure that everyone sits somewhere new. If you want the focus to be on your slide deck, try to set up the room so that you can engage with the audience easily while keeping your screen in easy eyeshot. Think about the space, the ambiance and how you want your audience to feel as you speak.

Gauge the energy level, and plan ahead: If you need to meet first thing in the morning or right after lunch, bring coffee. Be aware of when people’s energy is most likely to lag, and try to offset it with additions to the meeting. And bear this in mind as you craft your message: If people have heavy eyes, they might need more attention-grabbers within your presentation to stay alert.

Engage from the start: Think about sending a quick introduction to the audience, so they enter the room prepared to address your topic. Use a video, tell a compelling anecdote or offer a striking statistic. Show your audience that you understand what is interesting to them about your topic, and they’ll be more likely to keep listening.

As individuals and as organizations, the better we listen, the better we work. By cultivating empathy, curiosity and humility, we connect more quickly, more sincerely and more enduringly — and we communicate more clearly, more efficiently and more persuasively.

Dean (C’91) is a recognized expert in persuasive communication, and is the founder and president of The Latimer Group, an executive coaching and training firm that that specializes in creating powerful communication skills. Dean and his colleagues offer coaching and training to a global client list of Fortune 500 companies. In addition, Dean has written two books on effective communication, and is currently working on his third. Dean lives in Connecticut with his family. To learn more about Dean and The Latimer Group, please visit TheLatimerGroup.com. 

No One Leads All the Time: 7 Characteristics of Good Followership by Dean Brenner

At The Latimer Group, we often say, “No one leads all the time.” Part of being a good teammate – and a good leader – is knowing how to also be a good follower. True, followership isn’t always fun; it’s not always sexy. The credit often goes to the person in the lead. But good followership can have its own rewards since the best teams celebrate the successes of the whole group.

What makes a good follower? It’s not that complicated. The concepts are simple to understand but often complicated to execute. Why? Because a little something called “the ego” gets in the way.

But if we can manage the ego; embrace the fact that there is value to ourselves, our teammates, and our leaders; and be good teammates and followers; then we have a chance to do something great. So with all of this in mind, here are a few practices that will make you a great teammate and follower:

  1. Be part of the process. Strong followers are not just along for the ride. They contribute to the process. Strong leaders seek the input of others in their organization, and strong followers seek to contribute whenever possible and appropriate.
  2. Be open to ideas other than your own. Strong followers give input and contribute, but they also realize that good ideas can come from others, too. Listen to what others have to say. Listen with your ears and your mind.
  3. Disagree internally, support externally. Strong followers on good teams have a responsibility to raise their hand and speak up when they disagree with something. But strong followers always share that disagreement respectfully, logically, and internally within the team. Once a decision is made final, the strong follower supports it and does everything they can to make it work. Strong followers speak up and then “get on the bus” once the decision is made.
  4. Celebrate the performances of others. Strong followers enjoy and celebrate the successes of their teammates. Strong followers cheer for the people around them and love to see their teams succeed. The strong follower, just like the strong leader, thinks and speaks of “we” and rarely of “I.”
  5. Carry your own weight. Being a strong cheerleader is important, but to be a valuable member of a team, you must also do the legwork. Everyone loves to have a positive cheerleader on the team, but eventually, if that cheerleader does not actively contribute to the team’s success, the cheering starts to ring hollow.
  6. Don’t run for office. Strong followers do lots of things that may eventually make them a candidate for a leadership position, but strong followers don’t actively campaign to replace the current leadership. Strong followers do their job well, and they are ready when the time comes to step forward and assume a more prominent role on the team.
  7. Keep the “dirty laundry” within the team. This point is similar to #3, but is still worth a separate mention. Strong followers don’t publicly criticize a teammate or team leadership. They keep their issues within the team. Weak teams don’t.

Good luck.

Emotional Intelligence by Monica Thakrar (F’96)

Emotional Intelligence is such an important topic these days when it comes to leadership. The best leaders are of those with high emotional intelligence skills as that allows for a person to understand themselves, manage their own emotional state, understand others, and build strong healthy relationships with others. As people move up in leadership positions people skills and the ability to focus on developing, guiding, and influencing people becomes the essence of what is required for success. So what are the skills for emotional intelligence. Using the EQ-I 2.0 model the five major components of emotional intelligence are:

1. Self-Perception: understanding and awareness of your own emotions
2. Self-Expression: expressing your emotions
3. Interpersonal: developing and maintaining relationships
4. Decision Making: using emotions to make better decisions
5. Stress Management: coping with stress and other challenges

So how can you build up your emotional intelligence?

1. Know what emotional state that you are in – how often do you know what you are feeling? Are you in tune with your own emotions and understand how they are impacting you? Take an inventory every so often about how you are feeling.

2. Develop your capacity to manage your emotions – sometimes emotions can rule us. Have you ever gotten road rage or got upset at a boss/coworker who didn’t do something the “right way?” Imagine being able to take a breath and control the emotions prior to making a decision, acting out with people, and/or speaking up in a meeting. By taking a pause, breathing, and controlling your emotions first you can take the next step in a more centered way.

3. Develop more organizational awareness – once centered you can begin to understand what might be going on for other people. Noticing how other people are feeling, when they are upset, or how to understand when they might need to vent is a critical piece of emotional intelligence. Begin to expand your awareness by noticing their body language, expressions, and/or tones of voice can be a good way to enhance your own organizational awareness. Emotional intelligence can be developed. As leaders from Georgetown University (whether is a leader in your organization, community group, or home) it is important to develop the people skills necessary to develop and influence people in your lives for relationship success is the key to your success.

The Job of a Leader is to Develop Other Leaders by GUAA Career Coaching Partner Larry Center (L’74)

We have all witnessed numerous types of leaders: “hoarders” , “ostriches” and
“farmers.”  It is farmers who ultimately get the real job of leadership
accomplished.

“Hoarders” hoard people in their departments or offices. When they identify
excellent employees or potential leaders, their first question is: “How can I keep
this person here as long as possible?” They focus on their own immediate needs
and want to keep these potential leaders in the their place. Their strategic
question is “how can this help me?”  I remember how I used to see leadership
this way. I wanted to look good, and saw excellent employees as vehicles to
reflect on myself to peers and supervisors.

Hoarders can be good managers; frequently, they know how to delegate well,
they know how to utilize people’s skills, and they know how to get things done.
However, hoarders are usually not interested in developing the skills and
aptitudes of their best employees or in shaping these people to be future leaders.
They tend to view career development by their subordinates as a threat to their
own success, an obstacle to their own personal agenda, or as a hurdle to the
long-term smooth functioning of their domain. Hoarders are not interested in the
career development of staff members. They reason that such growth means they
will move on to other departments within the organization or positions at other
organizations.

“Ostriches” are not smart enough to hoard their people. I remember moments in
my leadership journey when I lacked self-confidence and I functioned in self-
protective mode. I would keep my head in the sand. Ostriches don’t have the
depth of vision to think about the development of their staff. They articulate the
mission of their office and expect all staff members to contribute to the fulfillment
of that mission and the accomplishment of departmental goals and objectives.
Employees exist to serve the department. If they leave, they can be replaced. If
they are interested in professional development or the cultivation of particular
skills, ostriches may not stand in their way. However they will never sit down with
employees and delve into their professional aspirations, asking how they can
assist them in reaching their goals. The development of new leaders among the
staff is simply not an issue on ostriches’ radar screens.

The third group of leaders, the “farmers,” are different. These leaders grow
people. People farmers maintain as a primary objective the development and
success of their team members. In order to fulfill this role, people farmers plant
the right individuals by engaging in a thorough, careful hiring process. They know
that the hiring of any employee is a two-way street. There must be a match not
just for the employer seeking to fill the position, but for the job applicant as well.
Once these team members are hired, the people farmers nurture and cultivate
them. Instead of fearing losing their employees, they actually help them articulate their personal goals and career visions.  Then they develop methods for helping employees work towards those goals. In fact, the people farmers do everything they can to match people’s career aspirations with their job responsibilities, even if it means re-writing job descriptions, as long as such re-writing benefits the entire operation. People farmers know that their role is to put team members in positions to succeed, not to fail.

They provide all employees, new and experienced, with the necessary
ingredients to do their jobs well: desired results, guidelines, resources,
accountability measures and consequences. They collaborate with all employees
they supervise on the development of annual goals, including the identification of
skills to be gained or improved upon or the knowledge to be learned. People
farmers talk the talk and walk the walk – they role model what they want to teach
their employees. They also seek help from their employees, admit their own
mistakes, teaching that vulnerability and humility are strengths, and thus
empowering their mentees to contribute and shine. They empower people to own
their issues and to bring forward solutions.

Farmers lead confidently through seasons, patiently feeding, pruning, tying,
untying, planting, waiting, and harvesting. With sufficient nurturing and cultivation, these farmers experience the true joy of leadership: the development of their team members into new leaders. They also know how to let go. They expect to let go. On the day their people are ready to “leave the farm” and take on bigger responsibilities elsewhere, these farmers celebrate with them because they realize that these employees’ successes are their successes as well.

In all my years of leadership experience, I have very few regrets. One major one
is this: I wish I would have listened to my “inner farmer” earlier and followed the
calling. Hoarding people or burying my head in the sand may have helped me at
the time, but these were leadership strategies based upon a lack of self-
awareness and wisdom. For decades now, I have been focused on cultivating
people, and have seen leaders sprout and grow into majestic trees in whose
shade many, including I, I have found new strength and re-discovered the joy of
authentic leadership.

Leadership and the Stanley Cup by GUAA Career Coaching Partner Larry Center (L’74)

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The Washington Capitals celebrate winning the Stanley Cup in the final game against the Golden Knights in the 2017 season.

Like many in the DC area, I reveled in Washington, DC’s first major sports
title in 26 years. My entire family, including my sons Jared and Ben both
former Hoyas now living in New York City, are both huge fans, Jared
worked for Monumental Sports for four years after graduation, including two
years in Sales & Service for the Caps. We were all thrilled for the players,
the staff and the city.

As the Caps proceeded through the playoffs, finally overcoming the
Pittsburgh Penguins, coming from behind in every round, clinching each
series on the road, I kept asking myself one question: Why did THIS team,
with lower pre-season expectations, an acknowledged lesser level of talent,
fewer veterans and more rookies, finally achieve the ultimate prize: the
Stanley Cup? The answer I came to, one which I also heard from several
experts, was this: The 2017-18 Caps may have had less talent as a whole,
but they were a stronger TEAM. The whole was greater than the sum of its
parts. There was true chemistry among the players. They played for
collective achievements, not individual statistics. How did all this happen
when no one expected it?

Great leadership
Great leadership leads to great teamwork and excellent results. Great
leadership comes from the philosophy of the person in charge. The head
coach of the Washington Capitals, Barry Trotz, said this about his
philosophy: “I have a clarity..If you don’t win any awards or anything, I’m
not going to look at you any different. If you’re a good person, you treat
other people right and you live life right, then I’m going to think really highly
of you. If you don’t, I’m not going to think so much of you. And I started
getting that clarity that everybody looks for the wrong in people rather than
the right.”

As I pondered these words from the man his players call “Trotzy,” I
concluded that the Capitals’s coach understands several basic aspects of
great leadership:

  • Leaders must have clarity about their core beliefs
  • Leadership starts with the leader’s character rather than with the leader’s competence
  • Leaders must learn to lead themselves before they can truly lead others
  • Leaders view their teams through the prism of authenticity and how they show up rather than merely how they complete projects or tasks
  • Leaders make sure that their teammates look out for each other and are committed to “play the right way”

How does your leadership look this right now? How many of these leadership traits do you role model for your teammates? Do you possess clarity about your mission, beliefs and priorities? Are you self-aware of how your character shines through every day? Are you building a culture where team members “play the right way?” It’s never too soon to emulate the winning leadership of a Stanley Cup-winning coach.

Mindfulness: How the Present is Always Perfect, Even When It’s Not

Guest Post by: Talane Meidener (F’87, MA’89)

On the topic of being present and mindfulness, I thought I’d explain a basic spiritual law that often confounds people: the present is perfect. I am sure you’ve probably heard of it before, but most people don’t really understand it. How can the present be perfect when you are sick or have a broken leg? How can the present be perfect when you have massive credit card debt? How can the present be perfect when your boyfriend just dumped you? It certainly doesn’t look or feel perfect in any of these situations. So if the spiritual principle doesn’t change, then how is this very imperfect stuff perfect?

A very wise coach once said that in order for a relationship to really work in the long term, you have to love your partner’s flaws and imperfections. Or at least, find them somewhat charming or amusing. Then it becomes true that you have a “perfect” husband or wife. They are perfect for you, flaws and all. The same works in life. You need to appreciate the perfection in the imperfections. When I was taking pottery classes in New York, I held up my rather wobbly, lopsided bowl and muttered something about it being highly flawed. My teacher, Michael, said, “If you want a perfect bowl, go to Pottery Barn and get one. The beauty lies in the flaws.” So, in that sense, my bowl was indeed perfect. Perhaps more perfect than the one at Pottery Barn, thanks to its flaws. Okay, now let’s take the more difficult leap of faith. How is a broken leg perfect? Or credit card debt? Or even worse, a deadly disease or war? This is much harder to see.

Years ago, my sister was becoming an avid runner when she went skiing for the first time and blew out her knee. After surgery, the doctors said she would never run again. She was in rehabilitation for months, started doing yoga and can now run again, though she has no cartilage left in that knee. If she runs, she is basically wearing down the bone. Not a good long-term strategy. While at first she was saying, “Why me?” and bemoaning her damaged knee, she later realized that she was going down a very athletic path in life and that her real destiny is more intellectual than physical. She later took up fiction writing and absolutely loves it! The universe stopped her in her tracks. So you could say the injured knee was perfect (not that I’d wish it on anyone) and helped her reorient her life around her true gifts and talents. She continued to do yoga and gentler activities like horse-back riding, which she enjoys even more than running.

What about credit card debt? When I was up to my ears in debt, I realized that I needed to learn how to manage my money better or, when the real riches rolled in, I would squander them. Getting more money is not the solution to most financial problems, even though most people think it is. I learned that my spending was driven by an unmet emotional need to be cherished. Until I learned how to fulfill my deeper needs, I would continue to overspend. Once I got my need to be cherished met, then the overspending stopped naturally. The debt was perfect because it forced me to face the facts about my spending habits and also my emotional needs. [Discover your own personal and emotional needs by taking the free Emotional Index Quiz. Now mind you, I still go shopping, but I don’t go into debt to do so—a world of difference.

What looks imperfect in your life? If you imagine yourself describing this event or situation in ten years, how would you describe it as perfect?

If you can realize that the present is perfect right now, you’ll be much calmer when dealing with the seemingly “bad” stuff of life. This is a mindful approach to the inevitable calamities of life.

And, sometimes the thing to do is change what you don’t like by perfecting the present. You can …

Be the Change You Want to See In the World

Some of my clients have asked what to do when they feel guilty for creating an ideal life when there is so much unhappiness in the world?

As Ghandi said, we must, “be the change we want to see in the world.” If you are worried about a current disease or world problem, donate some money to the cause. Being the change you want to see can be as simple as you make it. My hero is the philanthropic Taiwanese vegetable seller, Chen Shu-chu, who is doing exactly that: walking the walk and making huge changes by doing what she can, however small. Not only is she being the change, but by her actions, she is inspiring others to donate to charity as well. Listen to her story here and get inspired to be the change you wish to see in the world.